I carefully lowered myself into a small, shallow pool. It was worn in the smooth rock that spread over the Earth like butter. The water was warm and soft on my skin. Carefully lying back, I found the perfect nook to rest my head in. I took a deep breath and let my hands float to the surface of the water. Before me, sweeping blue mountains rose into rounded peaks. A river rushed forward, bubbling it’s way around boulders and rocks that dotted the bank. The air was pure and fresh with a hint of pine floating off the forest that flanked each side of the river. I sunk deep...
Clarity in Cabo: Why I’m Going Part-Time in My Coaching Business
Nothing can touch the bliss I feel. Even as we’re thousands of feet in the air flying home, a sense of peace has settled in my bones and I’m luxuriating in it like a bath. For the past four months, I’ve felt eerily lost. I thought that because my business had finally reached a certain level of success, I’d never feel this way again.. It seems, though, that no matter where you are on the journey, there are still stretches of discomfort where creativity dries up, utter exhaustion sets in, and the cash that flowed freely before, starts to slow. I’ve been patiently surrendering into this barren void and like...
What It Means to Love Your Darkness & Why Your Success Depends On It
I’m inflexible and rigid. An emotional roller coaster. I talk way more than I listen to the ones closest to me. I forget things easily. I can be so focused on what’s going on in my head that I completely miss whole parts of a conversation with Jon. I don’t have sustainable energy. I’m typically late for anything that requires my physical presence. And you know what? I love all of it. I love all of me. But it hasn’t always been like this. There’s a monstrous epidemic in our culture where we have become obsessed with our personal shortcomings; with all of the things we don’t like about ourselves....
What a Lack of Motivation Really Means & What to Do About It
It rained in Massachusetts for a month. Every day was cloudy, cold, and bleak. Winter was clinging desperately, digging its heels into the fresh soil of Spring. While it would have been easy to blame my lack of motivation on Winter’s inability to surrender, I knew deep down that my energetic rut wasn’t about the weather, but rather—it was the same old pattern coming back for more. The pattern you think you’ve healed, only to have it show up on your doorstep wrapped in different paper. For a good majority of my life, I’ve struggled with cycling through energetic highs and lows. The highs are always great. Who doesn’t love...
What Tulum Taught Me About Manifesting More Success
It took me THREE DAYS to completely turn off. In one of the most beautiful paradises I’ve ever been to, it took me three whole days to leave the computer locked in the tent and to pack the personal development books back in my suitcase. Three whole days—lost to the illusion that one can be “on” while simultaneously turning “off.” Tulum, with all of its beauty and magic, taught me how to relax again. And I’m not talking about the kind where you kid yourself by having one foot in and one foot out—I’m talking FULL ON RELAXATION. The kind where you melt into one of the canvas beds propped...
Three Powerful Shifts From Rich Litvin’s Coaching Intensive
Before we left the Intensive to go back to our lives and a world that didn’t expand like we did, Rich encouraged us to sit with our experiences and our insights—to keep them to ourselves and let them shift how we show up in the world. He encouraged us to let people FEEL our expansion, rather than talk about it. While I have every intention of honoring his wisdom, I also know myself well enough to know that my expansion integrates more deeply from turning around and teaching. While I can’t possibly fit the magnitude of what I experienced into a single blog post, I can share the most powerful...
The Best Tool You Already Have to Manifest More Success
I was speaking with a Client last week about her discomfort with the need to prove herself. For much of her career, she’s felt the drive to continuously learn and gain more knowledge so that she could appear as a true expert. While this isn’t necessarily a bad thing—I was curious about the motivation behind her drive to learn. What was it? As we dove deeper into the issue, she told me a story about a fellow colleague who had caught a potentially serious incident with one of his Clients before it could get worse. At this point, we were getting somewhere. Next, I asked her how her colleague caught...
What is Your Anchor?
Pursuing and living your calling is one of the highest forms of WAKING UP. When you’re anchored in the world by your calling, you feel a sense of fulfillment that is no match to what any relationship, any drug, or any amount of money from a soul-sucking job could provide. I know this because I’ve experienced it myself. There was a time in my life when I was anchored in the world not by my calling, but by the men I dated. They WERE MY WORLD and I let my life revolve around them. I let them be my purpose—to the point where I became obsessed. So obsessed that I...
I AM NOT YOUR SAVIOR
When I first stepped off the traditional career path to do what I love, I had this skewed idea of what Coaching could really do. I knew Coaching was powerful, but I also thought that Coaching could guarantee results. I thought that Coaches possessed magical guidance that would poof me into the reality I dreamed about—that just because I invested money into a program, meant that I would receive the results the program promised. How could you blame me though, when I didn’t have a guide to warn me about inflated marketing? Or about multi-million dollar Coaches who were way out of integrity? I had no one. Not a friend....
Are You Trying to Be Like Everyone Else When it Comes to Doing What You Love?
Maybe it feels safer that way. Maybe it makes more sense when you really think about it. Maybe it’s easier because then you don’t have to show people who you really are, or even deeper yet—you don’t have to admit who you really are to yourself. If there’s one thing I know about success, it’s that success only comes when you are 100% aligned. So if you aren’t experiencing the level of success you’d like to experience {or even some version of it, because yes, it does take time for success to unfold}, ask yourself: Where am I out of alignment? Am I doing what I’m doing in my life...