Do you remember that annoying girl in high school who would preach about the dangers of underage drinking & drugging?
Or that partner who put you up on a pedestal and only chose to see the very best within you, even if you didn’t feel as awesome as s/he made you out to be?
Yup. That was me.
One of my greatest gifts is the ability to see & cultivate the highest potential in those around me. As a result, it’s easy for people to feel like their better selves in my presence.
While this is a beautiful gift to have, I didn’t understand how to best utilize it when I was younger. Often times, having this gift made my life feel very dark & chaotic because here’s the thing: if someone isn’t ready to cultivate his or her highest potential, it backfires.
Especially when I was younger, I had the tendency to attract people who were lost and struggling and in need of support, but they also weren’t ready or willing to truly change.
When you attract these types of people, but you also have the ability to see people’s highest potential {even when they can’t} and you are endowed with an inclination to help humanity be better and do better, you set yourself up to be the annoying friend who gives unsolicited advice and the annoying girlfriend who expects her partner to be the best he can be, even if he isn’t ready to be.
As a result, the pattern I perpetuated included friends & boyfriends who would keep things from me, flat out lie to me, or subconsciously push me away because they felt guilty when they weren’t or couldn’t be the best version of themselves.
Back then, I didn’t consciously understand that this was happening because of my gift.
All I understood was that I was heartbroken & angry & quite possibly had a character flaw. Can you imagine what it’s like to find out that a boyfriend had been doing hard drugs for months behind your back when you thought you helped him to get over all that stuff?
I constantly questioned what was wrong with me. Why did this always happen??
Luckily, I caught on to what was going on when I decided to take up coaching. I finally realized that I wasn’t channeling my natural gift appropriately.
For too many years, I was the annoying friend and girlfriend.
For too many years, I was trying to “fix” lost souls who weren’t ready or willing to change.
What caused me so much strife when I was younger, actually turned out to be one of my greatest strengths as a Coach.
As a Coach, I only work with people who are READY & WILLING to change.
If you’re ready and willing to change, can you imagine what it would be like to have someone by your side who can see your highest potential and hold you to it? To have someone who believes in you so deeply, that you have no choice but to rise?
It’s freaking powerful!
Who knew a “character flaw” could be such a strength under different circumstances?
What I really wish for you to take away from this story is that it’s all in the way you choose to position yourself & your gifts.
If you feel like you have a weakness, a character flaw, or something wrong with you, take a moment to dive in deeper. Do you really have a flaw? Or do you simply need to apply yourself differently in a more appropriate environment?
You’re a lot stronger & a lot more gifted than you think you are.
Don’t sell yourself short. After all, I see your potential 😉
With light, love, & a different perspective,
-Kayla
Manifestation & Mindset Coach + Motivational Speaker
P.S. Do you feel like you could benefit from having a Coach hold you to your highest potential?
Send me a message & let’s set up a time to chat. It’s my mission to powerfully serve & transform your internal world so that you can create outward success, doing what you absolutely love!
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